i have learned that anger, no matter how fruitless it may be some days, is sometimes exactly what you need to feel. i have realized that i have a tremendous amount of anger towards certain individuals for certain actions which they took and which were taken on their behalf. nothing will change those actions, or the resulting actions in response, but that doesn't prevent the anger. that doesn't stop me from wanting to scream, and to hurt in retribution for the hurt i feel. but i would not do that. i know myself better than that. and sometimes it is enough to acknowledge the anger and cry, scream and fight with it and for it. sometimes.